“No” is seemingly a simple word. But finding that word in the midst of a complicated situation can be quite difficult. The #MeToo movement gave women and victims of sexual assault permission to use their voice; to say “no” and speak up against situations that were wrong. It also gave all of us a chance to examine the ways that men and women relate and reconsider the actions we’ve deemed as “normal” or “acceptable.”
As light shines on all this darkness there is a huge opportunity to grow; to learn what is healthy, what is unhealthy, and how to find a common ground. There is an opportunity for women to step into their power, reclaim their voice and embrace their femininity. Tantric wisdom provides guidance. It teaches people how to be fully themselves and how to communicate their truth to others. Here are a few tips for applying Tantra in your life during the time of #MeToo.
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This can be a hard one, especially since a lot of women have been conditioned to avoid confrontation and not speak up. But once she start’s listening to her body, she needs to learn to take action and communicate what she wants. In Tantra we call this boundary setting. For example, when a woman is asked for a favor, her initial reaction might be to say, “yes” regardless of how she actually feels. However, when she takes a moment to listen to her body and realizes she’s too tired, too stressed, or simply doesn’t want to, it’s ok for her to say “no” in this moment. This may seem obvious but too many women override themselves at the expense of another.
Learning to say “no” is an important and empowering tool. This can be done in a gracious way, of course, or a firm tone. And it is essential for women to start learning how to speak up. By setting boundaries, a woman learns to take care of herself first, which allows her to be more available to others in the long run. Speaking up for oneself may feel difficult and hard at first. But with practice saying “no” will become easier and more refined.
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It is easy for a man to say, “Why didn’t she just say ‘no’?” because he has been trained to speak up for himself. It may be hard for him to realize that it is not as simple for a woman.
Furthermore, if his self worth is based on how many sexual encounters he has, it is no wonder that he is seeking this out in his interactions with women. If women understand these motivations it will be easier for them to communicate in a way the man can understand. This isn’t to condone any abusive behavior. Rather, it is to help open up a dialogue with men so they can better understand how their actions are received.
Through Tantra women can learn how to use their voice, become more self-empowered, and communicate their true wishes; and men can learn to become more conscious of their sexual desires so they can manage them instead of being controlled by them.
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